In conversation with @zavionk “What did I do to deserve this?” cc @infiniteComPR

Dear friends and other interesting creatures,

Like many South Africans, my first introduction to Zavion Kotze was on Survivor SA. The moment he dragged the mighty Solly across the beach as if this huge black man weighed nothing, he had my vote. Not only did he come across as sincere and truthful, he was seriously athletically talented. A true contender. I enjoyed watching this openly gay man, break the stereotypical homosexual profile and kick some serious straight ass in the process.


I have met Zavion a number of times with thanks to @infiniteComPR, and I can assure you, he is everything you thought him to be. He is confidently soft-spoken, has an infectious laugh, a great sense of humour, a true romantic and you cannot help but to respond to his humble and appreciative nature. He is somebody who truly lives life to the maximum.

His accomplishments are endless, on a great number of fields, but he is quick to point out that his mom has taught him not to take praise for granted and he very quickly will steer the conversation away from himself.

Although Zavion was raised in a family where his parents were divorced, he spoke about his family with great love and obvious affection. Zavion plays a number of musical instruments and headed up the choir at Kearsney College in his matric year. We chatted about his very promising rugby career for the Sharks and his decision to focus on athletics as you are only as good as your last personal performance. His words reminded me of a quote that focuses of being better than you were yesterday. He clearly drives himself to greatness.

His honesty was refreshing and we had a good laugh about Survivor SA. I asked him what surprised him most and he said he truly thought maybe the crew would pass you an apple when you truly have no food! I loved the innocence of his answer. Apparently, there is no such thing as Zavion lost 18kg while filming Survivor SA.

I congratulated him on the huge amount of medals he won at the recent Gay Games. He told me about a 99-year-old athlete completed the 100 m race and that the games were so much more than sexual orientation, quickly diverting from himself. It was about acceptance, love, competition and ultimately representing your country. Well, if there is one man I do not mind representing my South Africa, it is this man. We chatted about the great adventure that visiting the USA was, the fun times, his desire to bring the games to South Africa, but overall, the feeling of love and acceptance….. and yes achievement. Taking part in the Gay Games to Zavion, is part of living a life worthy of celebration.

This diverse personality has the patience to deal with brides (more power to him!) and their mothers, while creating beautiful, stylish, sophisticated weddings. Picture perfect. In his first year he only did six weddings, almost double that in the second year and in the third year, just over 30 weddings. Clearly the man knows about what girls want.

But what does this boy want? He became silent for a moment as to reflect on his answer and swallowed. I waited. He said softly that he would very much want a family of his own, to get married and share his life with a man he loves and who loves him. Zavion is in a loving and fulfilling relationship, describing it as more than he could have hoped for. He smiled, looked down and then straight at me and said, “What did I do to deserve this?”

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On the official website for Zavion Kotze Events Company, the very apt quote welcomes you. Well, if I wasn’t already a huge fan, this would have sealed the deal, as we know my thoughts of Ms Garland!

“For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.”

— Judy Garland

You are enough Zavion. Happy, happy birthday. I am so glad you were born.


#OurDorothy @NCTParktown @Theatre_Culture #TheWonderfulWizardOfOz


Dear friends and other interesting creatures,

Promise to read to the very end. Pinky promise?

As many of you know,  I hold a bit of a flame for Judy Garland. Nonsense.  I am Judy Garland. Dammit. Growing up I believed I was Ms. Garland reincarnated.  Yes.  Seriously. Naturally it helped that I have a bit of resemblance.  Stop laughing. :)

My favourite movie starring Judy Garland is ‘The Wizard Of Oz’ , second choice ‘The Easter Parade’ .  How fabulous is she? So…

When I read what @Theatre_Culture accomplished last year,  I knew I had to get involved. The initiative is to take underprivileged children to enjoy the miracle of theatre…. children who may never have the opportunity to do so otherwise. I have a deep love for the performing arts and felt inspired to get involved.

A fantastic adaptation of #TheWonderfulWizardOfOz has been done by my very dear and talented friend, Francois Theron. It is on stage at The National Children’s Theatre in Parktown,  Johannesburg.


With the assistance of @Theatre_Culture and @NCTParktown,  I have decided to raise funds to take 60 children who has never had the privilege to go to the theatre,  to see #TheWonderfulWizardOfOz.

Being a sentimental fool,  I have chosen 14 December 2014 at 14h30 for this special event. It will be the 30th anniversary of my father’s death, and I think it would be suitable to fly over the rainbow just about then….

I was 11 years old when my 30 year old father died,  so that is the age group the invitations will go to. (My siblings,  Rentia was 8 years old and Mary-Ann was only 4 years old).

@Theatre_Culture will be liaising with the children’s homes directly. I would however like invitation to be given to the children,  in an envelope,  with their name on it,  which I will personally write,  so they may experience the thrill of receiving an invitation. Dignity is important to me.

It is imperative that the theatre and artists are rewarded for their performance,  that is how we support the arts to start with. We pay to see an artist standing emotionally bare,  even at a children’s theatre. It is a privilege.

A block booking has been made in faith that the funds will be raised.

To make all this happen, @Theatre_Culture and I need your help. R70 x 60 children = R4 200.  Should adults wish to attend, tickets are R90. Capacity of the theatre is 100.

In the event that we are blessed to raise more than this achievable amount,  more children will be able to experience the joy of musical theatre.

I would be thrilled if anyone can assist with donations of cupcakes and boxed juices for the kids.

Please make donations directly to the theatre, using the reference #OurDorothy and mail me the proof of payment ( ). 
I need to keep track of bookings, and/or gifted tickets for the children – but mainly so I know how much begging I still need to do. :) 

If you able to assist with catering…Or can put me in touch with someone who is willing, please mail me?

@NCTParktown Bank Account Details are :

Account name : National Children’s Theatre

Bank  : First National Bank

Branch  : Killarney

Account No. : 5486 0027 035

Branch code : 256205

Reference :  #OurDorothy

Help me make it enough,


PS.  My father passed away in a motor vehicle accident at exactly 19h00 on that day in 1984. I was at the movies… I  became violently ill and had to run for the bathroom. When I lifted my head, I looked at my watch with the little black leather straps. It was 19h00.

Dankie vir die totsiens Pappie. Dit het my nog altyd spesiaal laat voel. Baie lief vir jou.
Stel x

Bacon, Eggs &… #banting PANCAKES!!! @real_meals

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Dear friends and other interesting creatures,

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I wish you enough,

Originally posted on fatmandoo:

Cooked up a delicious LCHF breakfast this morning of streaky bacon, organic eggs, balsamic caramelized onions and pancakes! It was so yummy and very filling.

For the pancakes I whisked together:
• 1 cup of Almond Flour
• 50grams melted butter
• 1/4 cup water
• 1 Tablespoon Xylitol
• 2 organic eggs
• 1/4 teaspoon baking powder
• 1/4 teaspoon salt

In a nonstick pan I added a knob of butter and cooked the pancakes in 1/3 cup servings over medium heat. Made 6 pancakes.

They cooked just like traditional wheat flour pancakes complete with little bubbles… Only difference came when it was time to flip. A little extra care is needed at this stage.

If you do try these pancakes is love to know how you get on :) ENJOY!

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#Thanksgiving @SirNoid

Dear friends and other interesting creatures,

During the month of November we focus on gratitude. What are you thankful for today?

As the month starts,  I am grateful for my biggest fan,  my husband. The many things he does for me. His courage,  drive and commitment.

His awesome thighs really doesn’t hurt. #winner


I love you more than ice cream,  cheese cake and white hot chocolate.  :)

He is enough,

A new @SterKinekor cinema on the @JoburgRedBus route!


Ster-Kinekor cinema
New innovations ensure ‘Great Moments at their Greatest’ with every cinema visit…

South Africa’s leading cinema chain is set to open another new site this week, as it continues to cater for the ever-growing cinema-going audience across the country. On Friday, 31 October, Ster-Kinekor Theatres will open the doors of its latest state-of-the-art, six-cinema complex in the newly-completed Newtown Junction shopping complex in Newtown, Johannesburg.

The new cinema complex at Newtown Junction, which has 761 seats across the six cinemas, ensures that movie-lovers based in and around the CBD and Newtown areas of Johannesburg experience ‘Great Moments at their Greatest’ on the big screen. The new Ster-Kinekor cinemas boast the very latest in digital projector technology, offering crystal clear images and quality surround sound speaker systems. Included in the mix of cinemas are two 3D-ready screens to show the latest film releases produced in this larger-than-life format.

In addition to the latest digital projection technology, this complex also boasts another innovation for Ster-Kinekor – the introduction of self-service catering terminals. Patrons can order snacks and make a payment, before proceeding to the catering counter to collect their order.

Fiaz Mahomed, CEO of Ster-Kinekor Theatres, explains: “Our key focus with the introduction of this exciting new technology is to streamline operations at the site, by placing the power of choice directly in the hands of our customers. The system offers a simple and efficient user experience with a faster transaction time. We are trialling this new technology here at Newtown, in addition to our newly-opened sites at Forest Hill in Centurion and Matlosana Mall in Klerksdorp, to monitor its performance before deciding how best to roll this out to our other complexes.

“When we introduced our unique self-service ticket terminals (SSTs) more than eight years ago, we noticed an immediate and significant reduction in queue times for our customers. We are optimistic that the catering terminals will have as great an impact in offering our customers a seamless experience when buying their tickets and snacks, before entering the cinema to sit back and enjoy the latest blockbuster on the big screen,” states Mahomed.

Another exciting new feature at the Newtown site is the versatility of Cinema 1, which is more than a venue to screen the latest films. With the installation of specialist sound and lighting infrastructure and staging equipment, this 252-seater theatre can be transformed into the perfect space to host live stage events such as stand-up comedy and conferences.

“In fact, as part of the recent Absa ‘Joburg City Festival’ at the beginning of October, the venue was used successfully to host one of the events: the comedy show featuring Loyiso Gola and Friends,” comments Mahomed.

“For Ster-Kinekor, it is a particular privilege to be part of the regeneration of the Johannesburg CBD, and Newtown in particular. Newtown has become popular as a vibrant work and recreational area with a unique character based on existing cultural facilities. What we are offering here with the new Ster-Kinekor complex at Newtown Junction will, we believe, both benefit and enhance the existing infrastructure and entertainment facilities.

“The magic of the big screen cinema experience cannot be replicated in any other format. We are seeing evidence of this as audiences continue to visit the cinema to watch new releases and appreciate the big blockbuster films in the way they were made to be viewed – on the big screen. With the latest blockbusters releasing each week and six state-of-the-art cinemas in which to watch them, we are confident that audiences who enjoy a ‘great moment’ at one of our cinemas in Newtown will certainly be back for more,” concludes Mahomed.

Regular movie-goers can also enjoy further benefits and discounts through membership of the various loyalty programmes associated with Ster-Kinekor – the SK Club, Discovery Vitality and Edgars Club. For instant access to find out what’s new, which films are releasing when, and to make a booking, mobile phone users can also download the SK App on their Nokia, Samsung Android, iPhone or Blackberry smart phones – and have all the information they need at the touch of a button.

The films releasing at Ster-Kinekor Newtown Junction from Friday, 31 October, include two films in 3D suitable for the whole family – Planes: Fire & Rescue and Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles, as well as the crime thriller Gone Girl starring Ben Affleck and Rosamund Pike, the action-packed The Equalizer, Happy New Year from Bollywood, and the psychological thriller, Eliza Graves.

The opening of Ster-Kinekor Newtown follows on the successful launch of five other new sites within the past year – Secunda Mall in Secunda, Cradlestone Mall near Krugersdorp, The Grove Mall in Pretoria East, Forest Hill City in Centurion and the opening last week of Matlosana Mall in Klerksdorp. A number of other new sites are scheduled to open within the next year.

In addition to the new site openings, Ster-Kinekor has also focused on upgrading the cinema viewing experience at some of its key venues. These include the addition of luxurious Cine Prestige cinemas at four sites – Cradlestone Mall, Gateway, The Grove Mall and Sandton, with the imminent launch of two more at Cavendish in Cape Town, as well as the launch of two impressive IMAX® theatres at Gateway and The Grove Mall. More openings are scheduled within the next few months.

For more information about Ster-Kinekor Newtown Junction, or to book tickets, visit: or call Ticketline on 0861-Movies (668 437). For news and updates, go to Facebook: Ster-Kinekor Theatres | Follow Ster-Kinekor on Twitter: @sterkinekor, or download the SK App on your Nokia, Samsung Android, iPhone or Blackberry smart phone for updates or to book from your mobile phone.

Ster-Kinekor Theatres is a wholly-owned subsidiary of the Primedia Group and is the largest movie exhibitor on the African continent. To most South Africans, the word ‘movies’ is synonymous with the name ‘Ster-Kinekor’. The company operates 54 commercial cinema complexes in South Africa, with five international sites based in Lesotho, Namibia, Zambia and Zimbabwe. The cinema chain’s sites house more than 400 large-scale screens, over 64 000 seats and the largest 3D footprint featuring more than 120 state-of-the-art 3D screens across the country. As the industry leader, Ster-Kinekor has pioneered cinema concepts such as Cinema Nouveau, one of the world’s largest dedicated art-house multiplex circuits, and the luxurious Cine Prestige theatres, the first ‘business class’ cinema experience in South Africa. It boasts the only cinema on the continent that is fitted with the advanced Dolby Atmos sound system (at Gateway in Durban), and has spearheaded the return of The IMAX® Experience, with the opening of IMAX® Theatres at Gateway in 2013 and The Grove in June 2014. As one of South Africa’s most loved brands, it is Ster-Kinekor’s ongoing mission to become synonymous with the unrivalled magic of the cinema experience, by providing ‘Great Moments at Their Greatest’. During 2013, the company embarked on a massive roll-out project to convert and equip every cinema with the very latest in digital projection and sound technology. The result of this upgrade is that every cinema now boasts state-of-the-art cinema technology that encompasses 2K and 4K digital projection and 5.1 and 7.1 surround sound systems. The award-winning SK App, which is downloadable on all smart phone operating systems, is interactive, user-friendly and feature-rich, and recently recorded its 1.5-millionth download. The new-look SK Club loyalty programme rewards members with redeemable points when they swipe their card when buying movie tickets or catering. Combined with industry leading loyalty programmes from Edcon and Discovery Vitality, these give Ster-Kinekor a strong consumer value proposition and competitive advantage. As the market leader, Ster-Kinekor aims to spearhead the advancement of cinema across both South Africa and the rest of Africa, to ensure that consumers continue to experience movies as they were made to be seen – on the big screen.
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The three loyalty programmes linked to Ster-Kinekor also offer a number of price discounts and benefits, as outlined above:
• SK Club Loyalty Programme:
• SK CLUB members pay half-price for movies every Tuesday (All day. All movies). Members also earn 100pts for each movie ticket purchased (Every day. All movies). They can double their points on Thursday (All day. All movies) or by purchasing a ticket for the SKC Must See Movie. SK Club members can also earn points when purchasing catering combos: up to 200pts on a SK CLUB combo purchased and 200pts for the Must See Movie combo. FREE MOVIE = 1000pts!
• Discovery Vitality Movie Club:
• Vitality members get a discount on movie tickets for all shows every day, countrywide. Discovery Kids under 18 watch movies for free before 19:00 (Every day. All movies)
• Edgars Movie Club:
• Edgars members get up to 60% discount on up two movie tickets per day (Every day. All movies)
As you can see from the above, these three loyalty programmes work independently from each other: i.e. you do not have to be a Discovery Vitality member to join the SK Club. You can belong to all three loyalty programmes for optimum benefits and discounts.

A writer is a world trapped in a person.


Dear friends and other interesting creatures,

Imagine your mind having too many tabs open. There is not one subject I have dealt with where I can just close the tab.  All that is happening is that my emotional hard drive is over heating. Your screen turns blue. Sounds hot hey?  :)

I love my Social Media Diva tab.  The diverse people I meet,  the depth of subjects I am exposed to and the satisfaction is personable when acknowledged.

It truly is an extension of self for me since I don’t wear masks well, and pretending is for those who need to fake it to convince themselves they made it. 

My gratitude to clients who keep seeking me out on a platform there are a number to choose from. Contacts who will share information because they believe you would meet a need (sometimes if only your own!) and friendships freely given and received. Many,  many sincere,  good people in this world even if at times you look around and it appears Halloween all year round!
Thankful to those who see the value lies in who I am, and what I do with it. You adapt to your clients needs / wants but your core needs to remain intact or the world will swallow you whole. No chewing,  gargle or spitting.

Oh God knows there has been times I have wanted to smother my dear husband as like most of us normal folk,  he can be a pain in the ass. 

However in the man’s defence, in reality I am a loud,  opinionated,  probably not medicated enough individual with a temper to match.  Act first.  Think later.  That said,  one quality I am very proud of is that if I believe I have wronged anyone,  I apologise.  Without prejudice if it pleases the court.

After googling (my doctor would want to shoot me now) my husbands diagnosis of Bell’s Palsy on Saturday,  I have read accounts of full recovery and tales of sorrow. Everyone is different. Everyone has a story to tell. I do pray for divine intervention and that he will be completely healed. It is a stressful time.  His headache on the affected side is not moving and causing us both concern. 

When that screen turned blue and asked me to continue on safe mode, with my husband connected to drips and an ECG I knew that I did not want to loose him.  He had to be okay. I love him very much.

As for me,  I am generally in good health desbite the Fibromyalgia and Ankolysing Spondylitis nonsense.  I have a bit of an annoying iron deficiency which isn’t responding to meds,  so the medical profession does not yet know what my body has against iron.  The main draw back is that I am incredibly tired.  Physically.  Even taking it easy,  actually getting up is met with exhaustion. Let’s just say I have been trying to do grocery shopping since last week Thursday…. It is now Wednesday.

Banting is going well.  Husband joined me three weeks ago.  He has had no Coke (the drinking kind) since, so I am very HUGELY proud of him.  In am going into my 5th month now.  I am even baking bread,  chocolate mousse and crust less quiche so it has awaken the cooking person I have tried to keep in a tower.  No Prince for that Rapunzel but banting has freed her. 

We need a spa DAY or a weekend in the country. #justsaying

Many exciting projects happening.  Keep up with my Twitter and Facebook.  :)

I have no desire to be Jonah in the fish with a candle. I would have chosen the flying magic carpet in Aladin.  Much more windswept and exotic. So climb up…  We have a world to see,  people to meet and whips to crack.

I wish you enough,

PS. My main aim is to go and buy groceries today.  That would be like an achievement right?  :)

Posted from the second cloud on your left.

In memory of David Kato.Ugandan Gay rights activist @FATCT_SA @UJArtsCentre #H28

In memory of David Kato – Ugandan Gay rights activist
We need love like we need water. We need our humanity like we need air.
“Would I choose to be gay if know I’ll be minority, and be pounded for it?”
This piece explores love, acceptance, and an assortment of mad contradictions in a crucial frontier for human rights on the African continent.

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This new work created in collaboration with Forgotten Angle, co-devised by the cast, explores the personal and political conditions in which lesbian, bisexual, gay or transgender people live in Africa. Using the situation in Uganda as a starting point, the intention is to create work that challenges homophobic perceptions, as manifested in many African countries, and draw attention to the political ramifications for human rights in general.
In February 2014 Uganda passed a new anti-homosexuality bill which toughened penalties for gay people. Initially, the proposed bill included the death penalty for ‘repeat offenders’ and ‘aggravated’ homosexual acts, and imprisonment for those found guilty of not reporting gay people to the police.
“Homosexuality is just bad behaviour that should not be allowed in our society”
David Bahati, the MP who introduced the bill which included the death penalty in Uganda.

Public support for the death penalty was and is still believed to be widespread. This was whipped up by a frenzied media campaign to ‘out’ and shame gay people, and bolstered by Evangelical Christian Americans whose anti-gay campaigning has been persistent in recent years. This has included the presentation of a petition to the Ugandan parliament claiming homosexuals are responsible for mass recruitment of young people and children into the ‘practice.’

In 2011, whilst the ‘Kill the Gays’ Bill was being tabled, Uganda’s Rolling Stone newspaper published the photographs of several people it said were gay with the headline “Hang them”. After the gay rights activist David Kato took the Rolling Stone to court, successfully suing the paper, he was bludgeoned to death with a hammer. Police found no connection. But many believe his death was the result of vigilante gay-bashing.
David Kato was a spirited activist, with a vibrant and brave approach to his work and life. He dreamed of turning his mother’s cassava farm into a gay village, whilst his society wished him dead.
Should a person’s sexuality be controlled by the state? Is an individual’s sexuality the business of society to determine? How can minority rights be understood by a majority? How can dance expression and story work to encourage tolerance? What can South Africa do to support the battle for minority rights in the rest of Africa? What changes do we want to bring about? What story, which images will help us bring about change?
These are some of the questions our process seeks to address, and intends to create a production relevant to a South African audience. David Kato’s story is the starting point to finding story and expression of cultural resistance.
When conceived the process aimed to include a combination of:
• Internalizing real experiences of people who are struggling with homophobia, persecution, LGBTI activism in the African context – including drawing upon testimony from activists, sexual-minority migrants, Diaspora residing in South Africa.
• Finding physical expression and an aesthetic for the journey towards destruction which follows extreme intolerance.
• Finding physical expression and an ‘experience’ that reflects the beauty of diversity.
• Questioning how space, aesthetic and ritual can be used to reflect the dehumanizing, brainwashing impact of discrimination.
The work is being made with a life after the 5 week residency in mind, with onward touring to professional venues and educational and/or community settings.

Choreographed By: Mcintosch Jurahuni (Zimbabwe)

Directed by Melissa Eveleigh (UK/Zimbabwe/Malawi)

Music: Dave Carey (UK)

Performed by Nosi Samenete, Thulani Chauke, Thabo Kobeli, Nicholas Aphane, Charlston van Rooyen

Design: Sasha Ehlers

Lighting Design: Thabo Pule

Produced by The Forgotten Angle Theatre Collaborative

H28 is the lead dance production of THATSOQUEER 2014 (#TSQ) and is made possible with generous financial assistance and support from RMB, Pro Helvetia Swiss Arts Council and Business and Arts South Africa. #TSQ is presented by UJ Arts & Culture in partnership with UJ LIBERATI, UJFM 95.4, Gay and Lesbian Memory in Action (GALA), the Forgotten Angle Theatre Collaborative (FATC) and WHAM! Mambaonline is the official media partner of #TSQ.

H28 – Love in a time of hammers will be staged in Johannesburg at the Con Cowan Theatre. There will be three performances only – 30 October at 7.30pm, 31 October at 7.30pm and 1 November at 3pm. Tickets cost R50 and can be booked via or purchased at the door.

Please note there is an age restriction of 16 years and under.

For more details visit or find the FATC on facebook.